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When we react with anger at our children we are essentially modeling the negative behavior that we want to eliminate. At that point they are already upset or angry about something.


10 Tips To Prevent Aggressive Toddler Behavior Healthychildren Org

If you hit me Im going to stand up and wash some dishes Then when the hitting happens you stand up and go to the kitchen to wash some dishes.

How to teach a toddler not to hit. 1 Stop the behavior. Do this if your toddler is actively hitting you grab his arms not too tight this isnt for intimidation or to teach him a lesson to prevent any further hitting. Using an ABA Applied Behavioral Analysis approach you can use positive reinforcement for positive actions and negative reinforcement for negative actions in order to teach your child not to hit.

You should also teach your toddler that there are alternative ways to touch. Weve all been there before. Say Stop firmly but not with anger.

Hitting is not okay but you should not be immediately angry at your toddler. Any reaction from us whether it be a calm That hurts. If you are upset it will cause your toddler to be upset too which might only lead to an increased chance of more hitting.

You should empathize with your child and calmly explain that you understand their frustration but that it is not. They hit because they dont know what else to do. It is not ok to hit Mommy or a firm No hitting brings her to laughter and she usually will repeat the hit immediately.

If Sebastian wasnt angry or upset but just hitting to hit wed say Ouch that hurt me. When we think of toddlers hitting our first reaction is to. Even if another child did something to provoke your little one let them know that their behavior is not acceptable.

How to Discipline a Toddler Who Hits 1. Out of the blue will come a slap across the face followed by a laugh. So your best bet is to calmly remove your child from the situation and distract her with something else an approach called remove and redirect.

If youre a mom you know that an 18 month or 2 year old has a tiny attention span. When your toddler hits you the next time say no and hold your arm out to them. Can you show me a gentle touch says Robson.

If he keeps on trying say something like I see youre upset about something and. Wed gently stroke his head or arm or wherever he had hit us. Dont talk or teach just yet.

Smile and repeat the words. How often have you seen your toddler hit and immediately launched into all the reasons. One of the first steps you can take to teach your toddler not to hit is to consider the situations hes in when he hits.

Maybe your little one cant handle situations with lots of other toddlers in small spaces well. Take time when your toddler is calm and playing to teach them how hitting affects the other person. Remove your child from the situation or block their hands from making contact with you or another child.

If the toddler complains cries about you leaving you can go back to play with her. Is it only when hes in a certain play group and a playmate takes his toy. Its bedtime and your child is trying every trick in the book to stay up.

How To Teach Toddler Not to Hit 1. Do not however hit your child back as this sends a mixed message. Your toddler will see that this way of touching is acceptable and sore or.

For the most part toddlers dont hit to be mean. But if she hits you again calmly stand up and let her know you are going into the kitchen to wash dishes. You may have to physically get in the way and also remove your toddler from the situation.

Focus on your response not your toddlers behavior. Discipline them whether it is using a timeout or some other method. Toddler aggression usually happens when a little one is not getting what they want whether that want is reasonable food attention a cuddle or not candy someone elses toy something.

Point out that your child hit someone else and they wouldnt like it if someone hit them. Say the words touch gently and rub your arm with your other hand softly. It is up to you as the parent to teach your toddler not to hit you.

2 Stay calm and in control. Remove your toddler and tell them hitting is not safe. If he stops then you can let go.

Teaching toddlers not to hit does not always need to happen after your toddler hits. Make sure that if your child is hitting in order to get something you do not. And the more calm and consistent you are the faster your toddler should understand whats expected and be able to stop hitting.

With young toddlers one way to teach them not to hit is to demonstrate gentle touch.